BLOG: Sex Tips For You And Your New Guy!
It’s exciting yet awkward — you’re figuring out a foreign body, and he has no clue what you like. To make your first hookup worth remembering, follow Cosmopolitan’s four simple rules…
Rule 1: Don’t Jump the Gun
There’s no doubt been so much buildup to this moment that you’re tempted to skip foreplay and launch right into the part where you insert tab A into slot B. But that’s a rookie mistake.
“Really, the first night with someone is when you should be taking your time,” says sex educator Jamye Waxman, author of Getting Off. “Your goal should be to pay close attention to what works and what doesn’t for the other person. That way, you can please them right from the start.”
So keep things slow and steamy from the get-go. During foreplay, any time his hands start to wander too daringly or it seems like he’s going to try to go for the main event, grab his wrists and hold them tight. Then give him a long, drawn-out kiss.
“Most men love it when a woman does something aggressive like this because it helps them understand what she wants,” says Carole Altman, PhD, author of You Can Be Your Own Sex Therapist. “The back-and-forth between heavy petting and kissing will make sure things stay well-paced.”
Rule 2: Acknowledge Awkward Moments
Of course we all want to be thought of as a goddess in the sack, so the instinct is to ignore any gawky moments and pray on the kama sutra that he will too. But things will go much more smoothly if you do the opposite.
To rescue the mood, you need to acknowledge these slips subtly in a way that suits the kind of sex you’re having. If you’re both being playful, maintain that attitude — meaning, if he can’t seem to get your bra unhooked, don’t sit there as he gets frustrated. Give him a smile and say “Let me try. I know the trick with this.”
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